I owe an apology to women everywhere, specifically, stay at home moms. A lot of men who think that they are the “bread winners” of a family, have this notion that mothers who stay at home with the kids all day are…in a way…either not pulling their weight or just sitting around, doing nothing the entire day. I’m a bit guilty of this. In the past, I would often times get agitated with my wife when certain things around the house didn’t get done by the time I got home from work. I was guilty of thinking more than once “it must be nice to sit around all day and watch TV”.
And so the tale of a former working dad begins. He was once oblivious to the trials and tribulations of his stay at home wife. Now, he tells a different story.
As a working father, Daddy Fishkins often thought that his stay at home wife had it really easy. Why wasn’t she able to have the house spotless if most of her day was spent relaxing at home? He was in for a rude awakening when the tables turned. The first week as a stay at home dad was a success of sorts. With lofty ideas and quite a bit of naiveté, Fishkins set out to make his wife’s former role look easy. He accomplished the goals of rearranging cabinets and the refrigerator, preparing dinner every night, cleaning the house, and doing the laundry all the while taking care of his two younger children. After that first week however, reality set in. Now, getting at least one kid down for a nap is a victory. The fridge is no longer perfectly arranged. He is lucky if he can limit chicken nugget tantrums of his three-year old and 18-month old.Unfortunately, Daddy Fishkins is not alone in his sentiment. Husbands, who head off to work each day and have the opportunity to interact with adults, often take for granted the extent of a stay at home mother’s responsibility. In a break down of a typical day, you can’t help but chuckle at Fishkins’ incremental attempts to get work done or take a nap. It was refreshing to read that a dad can finally empathize with the struggles of stay at home moms. We don’t sit around watching TV all day, contrary to popular opinion. I think all dads given the opportunity to step into a mother’s shoes would realize that staying at home is not all fun and games.